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Teaching Responsibility

Posted by bronwynr on January 20, 2010

By Dr. Daisy Sutherland

There are many ways to teach responsibility and one natural way is to learn by example. Our children watch our every move and we must be aware of this occurrence. It is not correct to tell a child to ‘do as I say, and not as I do’, for that will just completely confuse the child.

Other ways to instill responsibility are:

  • Chores – assigning specific chores will teach even the youngest child how to be responsible. The chores can be assigned according to age and stressed that they must be accomplished on a daily basis. These should consist of helping around the house such as taking out trash, sorting laundry, dusting furniture, etc.
  • Clean Room – Keeping their rooms tidy is another form of responsibility. This should not be considered a chore. Keeping their rooms tidy and picked up, should be done on a daily basis and not be considered part of their daily chores.
  • Saving Money – If your child is given an allowance, another way to instill responsibility is to have them put a percentage of money earned in a savings account. This will teach them the importance of saving money which will continue to adult hood and perhaps avoid credit problems in the future.
  • Caring for a pet – nothing instills more responsibility than when they are required to care for another live being. The animal can be as small as a fish or hamster or as large as a dog or cat. Either way, the fact that they must care for this pet by feeding, cleaning and walking or playing with it will help teach them responsibility.
  • Plant a garden or herb box – teaching your children to care for plants as well as growing their own herbs or vegetables will also instill responsibility. They will realize the care involved and not take for granted the work it entails. It will also increase their self esteem to know that they were able to accomplish something on their own.
  • Teaching a sibling or friend – by having your child help teach a sibling or perhaps help by tutoring a friend will also teach them the meaning of responsibility. Not only will they be reaffirming what they have learned by teaching but will also get a sense of worth by helping someone else and watching them succeed because of their aid.
  • Babysitting – when your child is old enough another great way to learn responsibility is to babysit another child. It can start with a sibling for an hour or two and increase to longer periods of time and then onto other children. They must be aware of caring for a child that will depend on them as well as other tasks such as feeding, bathing and entertaining the child.

Teaching responsibility is very important. It will not only enhance your child’s ability to do things on their own, creating a sense of independence, but it will increase their self esteem as well. The feeling of worth is unexplainable yet so important. The look on your child’s face when they have accomplished something on their own because of your guidance is one that is irreplaceable. Start today teaching the different ways to learn responsibility.


I am sure there are many more ways than those I described above, but the important part is to be aware of them and make it all a learning experience they will never forget. For that main reason I developed a program called Reserved Only that will help parents to teach their children not only Responsibility, but Respect and Renewal as well. Please visit my site for more information: http://www.reservedonly.com

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Book – Strong fathers, strong daughters

Posted by bronwynr on February 14, 2009


Strong Fathers, Strong daughters


:10 Secrets Every Father Should Know  by Meg Meeker


The most important person in a young girl’s life? Her father. That’s right—and teen health expert Dr. Meg Meeker has the data and clinical experience to prove it. After more than twenty years of counseling girls, she knows that fathers, more than anyone else, set the course for their daughters’ lives.


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New Ways to Praise

Posted by bronwynr on December 3, 2008

: “You are not a beautiful or unique snowflake”

up, my parents and teachers told me that I was smart and talented frequently enough for me to believe them. While adults thought they were doing the right thing by lavishing praise on children (whether or not they deserve it) a growing amount of research shows that telling children that they are special or smart can actually be detrimental.


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Cosby on Parenting

Posted by bronwynr on November 27, 2008


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The Best of Children’s Art & Crafts

Posted by bronwynr on October 28, 2008


 This book is an enormous collection of activities for children, all designed to exercise busy fingers and stretch fertile minds.





More arts and crafts for kids
More on parenting
More for teachers

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Breakfast key to kids’ mental health

Posted by bronwynr on October 23, 2008

Adding a piece of fruit or a glass of milk to a teenager’s breakfast may help protect them from depression, anxiety and disobedience, Australian research suggests.

A study of more than 800 students has found that a complex breakfast is directly linked to better mental health irrespective of family income, the student’s weight or exercise routine.


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Chatrooms – help needed

Posted by bronwynr on October 22, 2008

Parents are showing an alarming level of ignorance and indifference towards their children’s participation in Internet chat rooms, with boys in particular being left to their own devices.  Article continues

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Parenting Skills – Video

Posted by bronwynr on October 12, 2008

Parenting from Healthbeat
Parenting from Healthbeat

Dr. Ramo talks about what parents can do to make a positive impact on their child everyday.

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ScreamFree Parenting

Posted by bronwynr on October 11, 2008

ScreamFree Parenting: Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool (Screamfree Living) (Paperback)by Hal Edward Runkel

The clear, direct, and humorous writing style allows parents with hectic lives to quickly read the book, absorb its concepts, and put them to use. Each chapter ends with reflection questions to reinforce the themes from the chapter. The book continues its effectiveness whether or not the reader answers the questions. However, thinking about the questions might shed light on you, your kids, and your relationships.

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Parents Want Online Access to Children’s Schoolwork, Study Says

Posted by bronwynr on September 25, 2008

 Most parents want more involvement in their children’s schoolwork by having online access to their assignments and coursework, but less than half actually have permission to do so, says a new survey.In fact, a whopping 92 percent of parents say they’d like access to the same online content and curricula distributed to their kids, but only 49 percent report that schools provide such access, says a survey by Studywiz Spark, a company that supplies an online learning environment for students. read more…

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