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Teaching Responsibility

Posted by bronwynr on January 20, 2010

By Dr. Daisy Sutherland

There are many ways to teach responsibility and one natural way is to learn by example. Our children watch our every move and we must be aware of this occurrence. It is not correct to tell a child to ‘do as I say, and not as I do’, for that will just completely confuse the child.

Other ways to instill responsibility are:

  • Chores – assigning specific chores will teach even the youngest child how to be responsible. The chores can be assigned according to age and stressed that they must be accomplished on a daily basis. These should consist of helping around the house such as taking out trash, sorting laundry, dusting furniture, etc.
  • Clean Room – Keeping their rooms tidy is another form of responsibility. This should not be considered a chore. Keeping their rooms tidy and picked up, should be done on a daily basis and not be considered part of their daily chores.
  • Saving Money – If your child is given an allowance, another way to instill responsibility is to have them put a percentage of money earned in a savings account. This will teach them the importance of saving money which will continue to adult hood and perhaps avoid credit problems in the future.
  • Caring for a pet – nothing instills more responsibility than when they are required to care for another live being. The animal can be as small as a fish or hamster or as large as a dog or cat. Either way, the fact that they must care for this pet by feeding, cleaning and walking or playing with it will help teach them responsibility.
  • Plant a garden or herb box – teaching your children to care for plants as well as growing their own herbs or vegetables will also instill responsibility. They will realize the care involved and not take for granted the work it entails. It will also increase their self esteem to know that they were able to accomplish something on their own.
  • Teaching a sibling or friend – by having your child help teach a sibling or perhaps help by tutoring a friend will also teach them the meaning of responsibility. Not only will they be reaffirming what they have learned by teaching but will also get a sense of worth by helping someone else and watching them succeed because of their aid.
  • Babysitting – when your child is old enough another great way to learn responsibility is to babysit another child. It can start with a sibling for an hour or two and increase to longer periods of time and then onto other children. They must be aware of caring for a child that will depend on them as well as other tasks such as feeding, bathing and entertaining the child.

Teaching responsibility is very important. It will not only enhance your child’s ability to do things on their own, creating a sense of independence, but it will increase their self esteem as well. The feeling of worth is unexplainable yet so important. The look on your child’s face when they have accomplished something on their own because of your guidance is one that is irreplaceable. Start today teaching the different ways to learn responsibility.


I am sure there are many more ways than those I described above, but the important part is to be aware of them and make it all a learning experience they will never forget. For that main reason I developed a program called Reserved Only that will help parents to teach their children not only Responsibility, but Respect and Renewal as well. Please visit my site for more information: http://www.reservedonly.com

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Parents’ Guide – internet safety

Posted by bronwynr on April 16, 2009

Parent’s Guide
NetAlert has prepared an Internet safety guide as a resource to help you create your own Internet safety strategy for your family.
Whether you are simply investigating the issues or need some practical advice on how you can help your children, this guide is for you.

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Book – All new square foot gardening

Posted by bronwynr on April 8, 2009

All New Square Foot Gardening (Paperback)

by Mel Bartholomew

…anyone, anywhere can enjoy a Square Foot garden. Children, adults with limited mobility, even complete novices can achieve spectacular results. I’ve rarely seen a more reader-friendly book! It comes complete with layout pages, very consise planting guides, even planting time tables for your area and the amount of time you can store your seeds! If you have never gardened before or started a garden that eventually left you frustrated, then this is the book for you! I just think that you should check your area for agricultural grade vermiculite before you buy the book. But once that little snafu is over, you are going to be amazed at how brilliant and easy this book makes successful gardening. I highly recommend this method for busy people and parents like myself. It is wonderfully easy to maintain, makes loads of produce, and looks very attractive. Two green thumbs way, way up.

More reviews from Amazon where the book is selling for $13.59

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Feeding Your Picky Eater

Posted by bronwynr on March 28, 2009

I sometimes wonder how some children manage to get enough energy to keep them going and going and going. If your youngster is one of the many who pick and choose the foods they like most, he or she may often get on food jags, eating the same foods for all meals or even refusing food altogether. In my house this week, my 3-year-old is refusing to eat anything but peaches and bread! But I’m not too worried about this new phase; experts suggest it’s normal and may not last too long. In fact, in most cases like this, children are getting all the nutrients they need despite their limited intake.

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Latest booklists from Pivotal Kids

Posted by bronwynr on March 26, 2009

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Comfortably Numb. Desensitizing Effects of Violent Media on Helping Others

Posted by bronwynr on March 23, 2009

ABSTRACT—Two studies tested the hypothesis that exposure to violent media reduces aid offered to people in pain. In Study 1, participants played a violent or nonviolent video game for 20 min. After game play, while completing a lengthy questionnaire, they heard a loud fight, in which one person was injured, outside the lab. Participants who played violent games took longer to help the injured victim, rated the fight as less serious, and were less likely to ‘‘hear’’ the fight in comparison to participants who played nonviolent games. In Study 2, violent- and nonviolent- movie attendees witnessed a young woman with an injured ankle struggle to pick up her crutches outside the theater either before or after the movie. Participants who had just watched a violent movie took longer to help than participants in the other three conditions. The findings from both studies suggest that violent media make people numb to the pain and suffering of others.

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Video – Growing up online

Posted by bronwynr on March 22, 2009

“a must watch for all teachers, parents and anyone involved with students or children going online. The video was released last week in the US on the PBS network as part of the Frontline program. Growing Up Online explores a large number of issues about students growing up online and the challenges that everyone face from parents to teachers and most importantly students.

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Book – The Fussy eaters’ Recipe Book

Posted by bronwynr on March 14, 2009

img-5The Fussy eaters’ Recipe Book

by Annabel Karmel

Since the Complete Baby & Toddler Meal Planner was published in 1991, Annabel Karmel’s essential guide to feeding babies and young children has become established as a classic.

Now completely up to date with ten new dishes, it also includes general advice on how best to cope with fussy-eating behaviours and improve mealtimes, Karmel’s The Fussy Eaters’ Recipe Book is more than just a recipe book – it will be the answer to many parents’ prayers!


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Money Management for Kids

Posted by bronwynr on March 12, 2009

Imagine the U.S. without a constitution or a corporation without a business plan: that’s your family without a financial policy that reflects your values about money and possessions. If you want your kids to grow up with a healthy respect for money and know how to manage it, your home must be the classroom, and you’re the lead teacher.

If that sounds scary, don’t worry. Good resources abound to help you. And, really, just five basic principles will give your kids a good foundation for thinking about money. Plus, there are natural opportunities to teach simple economic lessons in the course of daily life.

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Study: Kids want their folks involved in gaming

Posted by bronwynr on March 8, 2009

A survey carried out as part of Microsoft’s “Play Smart, Play Safe” campaign shows 60% of kids surveyed wish their folks would become more involved in their gaming. Of all of the children polled, 47% admitted their parents “never” involve themselves with gaming, which is just plain shocking, but not as surprising as the 47% of parents who admitted they sometimes allow their child to play a game rated for a higher age set.

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