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Teaching Responsibility

Posted by bronwynr on January 20, 2010

By Dr. Daisy Sutherland

There are many ways to teach responsibility and one natural way is to learn by example. Our children watch our every move and we must be aware of this occurrence. It is not correct to tell a child to ‘do as I say, and not as I do’, for that will just completely confuse the child.

Other ways to instill responsibility are:

  • Chores – assigning specific chores will teach even the youngest child how to be responsible. The chores can be assigned according to age and stressed that they must be accomplished on a daily basis. These should consist of helping around the house such as taking out trash, sorting laundry, dusting furniture, etc.
  • Clean Room – Keeping their rooms tidy is another form of responsibility. This should not be considered a chore. Keeping their rooms tidy and picked up, should be done on a daily basis and not be considered part of their daily chores.
  • Saving Money – If your child is given an allowance, another way to instill responsibility is to have them put a percentage of money earned in a savings account. This will teach them the importance of saving money which will continue to adult hood and perhaps avoid credit problems in the future.
  • Caring for a pet – nothing instills more responsibility than when they are required to care for another live being. The animal can be as small as a fish or hamster or as large as a dog or cat. Either way, the fact that they must care for this pet by feeding, cleaning and walking or playing with it will help teach them responsibility.
  • Plant a garden or herb box – teaching your children to care for plants as well as growing their own herbs or vegetables will also instill responsibility. They will realize the care involved and not take for granted the work it entails. It will also increase their self esteem to know that they were able to accomplish something on their own.
  • Teaching a sibling or friend – by having your child help teach a sibling or perhaps help by tutoring a friend will also teach them the meaning of responsibility. Not only will they be reaffirming what they have learned by teaching but will also get a sense of worth by helping someone else and watching them succeed because of their aid.
  • Babysitting – when your child is old enough another great way to learn responsibility is to babysit another child. It can start with a sibling for an hour or two and increase to longer periods of time and then onto other children. They must be aware of caring for a child that will depend on them as well as other tasks such as feeding, bathing and entertaining the child.

Teaching responsibility is very important. It will not only enhance your child’s ability to do things on their own, creating a sense of independence, but it will increase their self esteem as well. The feeling of worth is unexplainable yet so important. The look on your child’s face when they have accomplished something on their own because of your guidance is one that is irreplaceable. Start today teaching the different ways to learn responsibility.


I am sure there are many more ways than those I described above, but the important part is to be aware of them and make it all a learning experience they will never forget. For that main reason I developed a program called Reserved Only that will help parents to teach their children not only Responsibility, but Respect and Renewal as well. Please visit my site for more information: http://www.reservedonly.com

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Digital children’s channel for ABC

Posted by bronwynr on April 25, 2009

The Rudd Government today announced a commitment to establish a dedicated ABC children’s digital television channel.


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Labour to make teenage community service compulsory

Posted by bronwynr on April 24, 2009

Young people will have to complete 50 hours of community service before they are 19 if Labour win…
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Picking the right school for an education grad degree

Posted by bronwynr on April 23, 2009

Is it more important to go to a great school or a school near where you want to teach?

When California resident Joshua Arnold gained acceptance to Harvard University’s Graduate School of Education, his decision to attend seemed simple—the school is first rate, and Harvard offered him a full scholarship. Harvard’s mix of innovative theory and practical experience was exhilarating, but Arnold isn’t sure how well it prepared him for the challenges he faces as a principal in South Central Los Angeles, knowledge he might have gained had he gone to ed school closer to home. “My program never talked about educating Latino students in the ways I needed or wanted,” Arnold says. “Educating Latino students is not as much of a concern in Boston as it is in Los Angeles. In L.A. it’s a really critical issue.” … read more

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Video – Reading aloud

Posted by bronwynr on April 20, 2009

Choosing books to read aloud to children

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States consider new ‘sexting’ laws

Posted by bronwynr on April 19, 2009


Parents, school districts, and law-enforcement officials have been grappling with what to do with teenagers who take sexually explicit photos of themselves with their cell phone cameras and send them to friends. Now, a handful of state legislatures are moving to get rid of one option: child pornography charges that result in lifetime listings on states’ internet sex-offender registries.

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When Love Hurts, Schools Can Help

Posted by bronwynr on April 17, 2009

Chris Brown’s arrest for assaulting Rihanna may have placed a national spotlight on dating violence, but with one in five high school girls reporting that they’re physically or sexually hurt by their partner, chances are that one may be a student of yours. Health teacher Ann Burke of North Kingstown, RI, created the Lindsay Ann Burke Memorial Fund to educate 7th through 12th graders about dating violence after her daughter was murdered a few years ago by her ex-boyfriend.

Did you have any hint that this would happen to Lindsay?

I had an idea. No one else did. Everyone else said it wouldn’t go that far. Even though she hadn’t admitted to it, in my gut I thought something like this could happen. I was frantic. A lot of mothers have that gut feeling. But it’s not like I knew immediately. Lindsay, like us, had never been educated in domestic violence or dating violence. We didn’t know anyone who had experienced it. But I saw things that didn’t seem right, some red flags, and I started asking around. more » » »

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Parents’ Guide – internet safety

Posted by bronwynr on April 16, 2009

Parent’s Guide
NetAlert has prepared an Internet safety guide as a resource to help you create your own Internet safety strategy for your family.
Whether you are simply investigating the issues or need some practical advice on how you can help your children, this guide is for you.

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Research on Boys

Posted by bronwynr on April 15, 2009

Did You All See This Article? Disney has hired researchers to learn about ages 6-14. I was struck by one observation — boys liking small improvements in skills, rather than identifying with the ab…
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Celebrate spring with this flower activity

Posted by bronwynr on April 12, 2009

Try this:

Beautiful blooms

White lilyCelebrate spring in style with this fun flower activity.

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